(DISCLAIMER: This is a serious one, so just skip if you're not comfortable with serious things... I'm not going to try to be flippant and humourous. This is important to me.)
Why do most human beings feel this need to impose their will on others? They feel everyone must toe the line of their expectations and opinions. It's such bullshit. What do these people want? Imagine if everyone did conform... Their perfect world of "acceptable" behaviour would be... mind-numbingly boring, with absolutely no variety whatsoever! Imagine if no one thought differently... There would still be oppression based on caste in India and based on race in some other countries... We would still all be forced to conform to a religion, whether we like it or not, or pay for non-conformity. Indians would still be subjugated. There would be no freedom of speech. No freedom of expression. No freedom of thought.
So why are we still trying to get people to do what is acceptable to a certain majority?
I have seen this very often. The minute someone does something different, there's such a huge opposition to it. Ok, off the top of my head... Homosexuality! I can't count the number of people whose reactions to homosexuals range from mild discomfort to wild opposition. I have no bone to pick with the mild discomfort camp. Sure, we've all been trained to think in a certain way from childhood and the idea of homosexuality may make them uncomfortable. Fair enough. Now how about shutting up and keeping your opinion to yourself? What absolutely pisses me off is people who go around saying "It's unnatural!" blah blah blah. Well, it exists doesn't it? That means nature created it so it's NATURAL! And then there are those people saying it shouldn't exist, it's wrong. Oh, wait a minute. I think I missed something... Who died and made you judge of what is right and wrong?
I just don't understand this need to tell everyone how to live. I mean, how does it matter how two consenting adults do their business? Is anyone forcing you to do it? Are they hurting anyone, physically? (I'm not talking about people 'hurting' puritanical sensibilities!) Then, HOW DOES IT MATTER? If you're gonna talk about rape and stuff, tough news, it happens regardless of sexual orientation. So I think it's best to set aside these silly notions that infringe on other people's freedom to be who and what they are... We are all free human beings... But we can't choose our sexuality, it's inborn. And even if we could, why should we choose something just so that society will feel COMFORTABLE?
Oh, I'm not done yet. Another case of stepping outside the norms: Feminism. I have witnessed how people react to feminists, both in real life and otherwise. They are faced with great antagonism in general and in movies they are portrayed as stereotypical male-haters with short hair, either unmarried or divorced. The minute a feminist opens her mouth there's this change in the atmosphere... It gets all charged with self-righteous anger from other people, like she's a freak who's disturbing the peace. Why is it wrong to stand up for rights? I mean, what modern feminism is about is basically individual rights, the freedom to be what you want to be, regardless of your sex. So if I, a woman, want to not have children, am I a freak? Don't I get a say in what I want to do with my own body? If I don't want to cook, clean AND work AND take care of my family... if I would prefer to be the 'conventional' housewife who stays home and doesn't work, can't I be that and still hold on to my individuality? If I am a man who prefers to wear pink and loves flowers, can't I make that personal choice without being judged? Or if I feel I'm not happy with my gender, can't I just change who I am? Or should I slog through life, working to keep society happy (like it can ever be happy!) only to end up being a miserable person?
Why do we all have to toe that invisible line? Why do we have to follow these unwritten rules even when they make no sense?
How many of you are wondering if I'm homosexual or a feminist right now? How many of you are judging me?
...But you know what? I don't care! :)
7 comments:
HEAR HEAR!!! You got it right to the very last syllable! Why are we expected to be something- especially when that is not what we are?!And who made all the stupid rules anyway?
Like you said who is anyone to impose their sad narrow views on anybody else? Just mind your own business for Godsakes!
I always preferred anarchy, what about you?
Expectations .... grr.. I hate the sight of it.. Its wat screws everything up..Some rules are meant for the greater good and order and i get all that but some of it is jus bullshit! take for example the brilliant institution we study in!
hehe! hw about 'she's a slut coz she smokes..." ?
wholehearted agree git...though it gets you thinkin...it all comes down to who makes the rules, and that's usually the 'majority'...and so it's all 'power play',as our dear friends henry and hal have taught us :)
my dad's got this famous quote: 'my freedom ends where your nose begins'...of course, like i always ask him, what happens if you're standing nose-to-nose?? hee ;D
and pls tell me where thou obtained the lovely blog skin!!!
i just hope u aint, because:
1. I hate homosexuals.
2. Feminists just use men for reproduction, i.e., SEX. Dont men have emotions as well? They should stop viewing men as just a piece of flesh. Such crudeness! I am apalled!
Wow... ok... I read through this rant slightly appalled (now, now, posh, other people are allowed to use that word! and look at the spelling!) at its... well... RANTINESS. The comments are a lil comforting, I must say. So, thanks atomic, rini, for ranting back! :D
jadis... tell me about it! strange the connection between a cigarette and promiscuity. The logical capabilities of the person who makes the comment is very much in question, if you ask me!
hehe, forget nose-to-nose, posh!... what about... er... never mind! ;)
GRRR! I HATE SPAM!
Hey, crazy... are u serious? or being flippant? I mean, I don't get your tone... Anyway... Well, I think you're making some gross generalisations... or rather, gross specifications (?) It's human beings in general who treat other human beings that way. and specific human beings belonging to both genders, feminists and non-feminists all do that! And yes, I am a feminist. Proud to stand up for my rights. And no, I don't look at men like meat or something. If you read my post, you'd know that most feminists don't talk only about women but also about gender issues in general, including stereotyping of men :)
er...yes jan, i deliberately used 'nose to nose' ;) and i am 'appaulled' that you of all people,'miss correct spelling and punctuation', are getting the spelling of 'appaulled' wrong!!! learn from the lexicographer git!! :D
and i hate spam too!!!!
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